Control the green-eyed monster: the art of trust

There are many marriages that end in divorce, annulment, or separation. There are many factors which could contribute to these ends, yet the most common is caused by adultery and concupiscence. For the couple who parted ways, there is nothing that was lost between the two of them, since they will both have memories that they have shared. Yet the downfall of these separations is not on the couple, or the parents: it will fall on the shoulders of their children.
Children need both their parents in order to survive. This statement does not mean that a single mother will do a bad job at parenting than a couple who reared their children together. It is a fact: broken families are able to produce adults at two ends of the spectrum. They could either come out as a strong person, or someone who is dependent on others.
It is very important that couples hang on together rather than go on their separate ways and render their children helpless. How can such problems be avoided? Jealousy plays an important part on these arguments. Oftentimes there would be a person who is less secure in the relationship, and doubt would begin to cloud that person’s judgment. Similar to what happened to Coelho’s (2008) character in Winner Stands Alone, once the doubt begins to enter the relationship, there are only a handful of things that the couple could do to mend the gap.
A relationship is similar to a fragile glass. Once the glass is dropped, it would be hard to put the pieces together. Oftentimes the person trying to fix the glass could only end up wounded and hurt, but no matter how much glue the person uses, there is no use: the glass will be rendered useless, because once you put water in it, the water will flow through the cracks.
At all costs, try keeping an open mind. Imaging worst case scenarios at every second a partner is out of the other’s glance is a sure way to break the trust. A relationship should require commitment, trust, and honesty. It will not work without these three.
For those who are struggling to control their green-eyed monsters, they should feel free to express these frustrations and jealous urges with their partners. Once the partner reassures the other party that there is nothing to be worried about, it will strengthen their bond and bind them closer. Communication goes a long into a relationship as well.
At the end of the day, remember that a relationship is a two-way street. There cannot be only one person who is doing the giving or taking. It is a give and take process which would require a fragile dance between two people who are committed and involved in each other in a romantic sense.
Yes, marriages and relationships can work out. It is always the falling in love part that is easy: the real challenge is staying in love. With this thought, try to resolve any problem before it blows up to unbelievable proportions. Keep working on the relationship, and once the foundation of trust and commitment is laid, there is nothing stopping the couple from achieving that happily ever after.