Women and their double standards

Today I saw a woman wearing a thin white shirt with a dark underwire bra. She was soaking wet, and the thin fabric clung to her every curve. The unfortunate thing about the event is that we were at a public jeepney, with men in our presence. They were ogling at her breasts, and she slid closer to the jeepney’s sides in the hope that the men will not look at her.
I am completely baffled why some women wear provocative outfits in the first place, then would shrink away once a man gives them a rude glance. They have the nerve to be upset and to curse when a pervert gives them the glad eye. But the sad truth is, men wouldn’t have anything to look at in the first place if they were not provoked.
Women and their double standards. They want to be independent, but they want men to take care of them. They claim that they can do everything, but rely on men for stability and security.
A perfect example of this would be Golden’s (1997) novel, Memoirs of a Geisha. In it, a geisha claims that her major role in life is to get a “danna”. A danna is a man who will take the geisha as a mistress: he will clothe her, feed her, and spoil her, in exchange of sexual favors at anytime the man wants. Some geishas would fall in love with their dannas, sometimes the dannas would marry their geishas. Yet as the main character said, “A geisha who wants to be a star is completely dependent on having a danna” (Golden, 1997).
This pronouncement pierces through my heart, because as young as I am, I know several women who are independent and does not need a man to complete them. But novelists, the media, and all other factors point out that a woman without a man is useless.
This is a sad reality that we can all witness every day. When a man is promoted, it is because he deserves it. When a woman climbs the ladder of success, it is silently implied that she slept with the boss. As a woman these thoughts are degrading and insulting. But one person who wishes to stand up and make a difference doesn’t make much impression to the whole world.
There are women whom you can see breastfeeding in a public area. There are women who believe that the best way to get over a man is to get under another. There are women who scorn prostitutes, and frown down upon adultery, but are not innocent of having extra marital affairs.
These are double standards set by women. They want to look sexy and be noticed, but when they are noticed, they get angry. They want to be independent and in charge of their lives, yet they will cling to a man when the going gets tough.
Women are as powerful and as resourceful as men. The only difference is that men mean what they say. With women, there are always underlying contexts. It is up to us to change how the world perceives us. It is up to us whether we want to be known for our gentleness and kindness, or because of our sexual prowess. It depends upon a woman how she carries herself.
How do you live your life? You’re the only one who can change the stereotype.